Valentine.This word started making sense to me, when I hit my teens.At that time , for me it was just a very special day with that very special guy.As I had no body special then,all I dreamed was having a great valentine some day with lots of gifts,bouquets and no chocolates(I don't like them).
However, over time this day has started making so much more sense to me.While I was working in Bangalore,India, I stayed in a pg and my roommates were also my really close friends.I treasure those days.It was great.We shared our problems,cried,laughed,fought.Over the years, you develop a very strong bond.Because those are the beautiful faces you see first thing in the morning and last one before hitting the sack.I loved them.I love them even now.The very thought of Koramangala(my city) gives me the immense pleasure equivalent to the one, I get by eating Gulab Jamuns(my favorite sweet). During that time Valentine's day was spent with them.We did give gifts to each other.Something we could totally afford and yet be so happy about it.Sometimes celebrating happiness and sometimes to get past the break ups.
I always had this practice of wishing my parents.I , remember about 4-5 years ago,when I used to wish my mother, she used to put my wish off saying "What Rubbish". But, I never stopped wishing.I kept telling my dad to gift my mom something.Over the years in a relationship/marriage , you are contented and very happy, so you don't feel the need to gift some one and let them know of the love you have.My mom always said your dad gifted me so much when we were dating.
But in the last couple of years,I have seen a significant difference in the way this day is celebrated.My dad gifted my mom a beautiful saree last year and my mom is so proud of it every time she wears it.My in laws have this practice of exchanging gifts followed by dinner and movie.I see stores filled with valentine's day cards addressed to mom,dad,parents,sister,husband,bf.Today as I was walking by the card section, I was enthralled to see a young boy about 7 years old helping his dad get a card for his mom.That made my day.
Valentine's day does not mean you need just one day to express love.Not just one day when you have to give presents.Not just one day to convey your feelings.In this age & time when technology,work,money,personal priorities take over so much.It is good to pause and appreciate all the goodness and love around.This is one day when you can do a little more then other days,give a little more,love a little more, get lost a little more.
My day winded up beautifully, as I listened to my father wish me and then he told me to pass the phone to Arun saying he wanted to wish him.I smiled quietly.
However, over time this day has started making so much more sense to me.While I was working in Bangalore,India, I stayed in a pg and my roommates were also my really close friends.I treasure those days.It was great.We shared our problems,cried,laughed,fought.Over the years, you develop a very strong bond.Because those are the beautiful faces you see first thing in the morning and last one before hitting the sack.I loved them.I love them even now.The very thought of Koramangala(my city) gives me the immense pleasure equivalent to the one, I get by eating Gulab Jamuns(my favorite sweet). During that time Valentine's day was spent with them.We did give gifts to each other.Something we could totally afford and yet be so happy about it.Sometimes celebrating happiness and sometimes to get past the break ups.
I always had this practice of wishing my parents.I , remember about 4-5 years ago,when I used to wish my mother, she used to put my wish off saying "What Rubbish". But, I never stopped wishing.I kept telling my dad to gift my mom something.Over the years in a relationship/marriage , you are contented and very happy, so you don't feel the need to gift some one and let them know of the love you have.My mom always said your dad gifted me so much when we were dating.
But in the last couple of years,I have seen a significant difference in the way this day is celebrated.My dad gifted my mom a beautiful saree last year and my mom is so proud of it every time she wears it.My in laws have this practice of exchanging gifts followed by dinner and movie.I see stores filled with valentine's day cards addressed to mom,dad,parents,sister,husband,bf.Today as I was walking by the card section, I was enthralled to see a young boy about 7 years old helping his dad get a card for his mom.That made my day.
Valentine's day does not mean you need just one day to express love.Not just one day when you have to give presents.Not just one day to convey your feelings.In this age & time when technology,work,money,personal priorities take over so much.It is good to pause and appreciate all the goodness and love around.This is one day when you can do a little more then other days,give a little more,love a little more, get lost a little more.
My day winded up beautifully, as I listened to my father wish me and then he told me to pass the phone to Arun saying he wanted to wish him.I smiled quietly.
Valentine in a different perspective .... Wow
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